People with low self-esteem don’t trust their judgment, don’t trust their gut instincts, and are afraid of being wrong.

As a result, they either live their lives in a constant state of anxiety, or they look to others to guide them along the right path.

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Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled.

The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside.

If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.

Poor self-worth is what traps us in bad relationships, what sabotages new relationships, and what causes us to feel so devastated and broken when a relationship ends.

She may know on a conscious level that it simply wasn’t a match, but deep down she holds on to the destructive belief that she was the problem…and that she is unlovable and the guys she wants will never want her back. Having strong boundaries means you prioritize your needs and your emotions and do not assume responsibility for someone else’s needs and emotions.

Confident women know what they will and will not accept and don’t allow themselves to be pressured or guilted into doing things they don’t want to do.

This obviously does not do much to help one’s sense of autonomy, which is also a key element of healthy self-esteem. Confident women don’t show off or talk themselves up.

Confident people don’t need to tell the world how great they are.

People with high self-esteem believe they are worthy of love and don’t question how someone feels about them.